Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number...
I know there are going to be plenty of you guys ("guys" meaning women, for the most part...lol) that are going to strongly disagree with what I'm about to say, which is fine. What's funny though is that a lot of you who are going to disagree have been the most egregious examples as to why I believe AGE AIN'T NOTHIN' BUT A NUMBER when it comes to matters of the heart.
What I mean by that is it doesn't matter whether we're dealing with a younger woman or an older woman, we often have to go through a good deal of the same sh*t! Complaints about not communicating enough or not being affectionate enough? Check. Insecure and whiny? Check. Saying one thing but meaning another? Creating problems when there are none? Wanting and coercing their man to change? Check. Check. And check!
Now to be fair, I'm well aware that this doesn't apply to all women. But, in essence, that's exactly my point! Because age is a very minute factor when it comes to how a woman might respond in a given situation. There are many much more predominant factors that come into play. However, older women are quick to point to a younger woman's age as the main problem, notoriously making snide remarks about a guy who is seeing a substantially younger woman. My favorite line is "He can't handle a real woman. That's why he likes dealing with little girls." And yes, there are plenty of times when this statement holds truth. However, the reality is that just because she's younger it doesn't mean that she is immature or that she doesn't handle her business. Yes, the possibility is there because the older you get, the more wisdom and experience you gain. But, come on now, let's be honest: each and everyone one of us can name several! old fools. Am I lyin'??
A few days ago I had a short conversation with a friend about how some of my past experiences and hence, my opinions, might be a lot different if I were to base them off of the dealings of an older woman today. And I completely disagreed. I have had many relationships with women older and younger than me, and there is no big difference in regards to the way they act and act out when it comes to a relationship. Obviously, there are differences between each woman but that often has little or nothing at all to do with their age.
Case in point:
A friend of mine was recently involved in a situation that highlights exactly what I've been saying. As per my policy, the names have been changed to protect the innocent, as well as the guilty.
"David" was at a gas station pumping his gas and minding his own business when he noticed a woman that appeared to be checking him out. As he finished up and closed his tank, he looked up to find her staring at him and smiling. So of course, he goes over and introduces himself...
"From a distance, she looked like she was around my age. And her body was just ridiculous! As I got closer to her, I could tell she was a little older than me."
Come to find out she was about 47, which is about ten years older than "David". So after they exchange numbers, "David" casually inquires as to what "Sarah" was getting into for the day. She responds that she didn't have any plans, which leads him to say that maybe they should try and connect later on. But "Sarah" doesn't want later on...She wants RIGHT NOW. This catches him off-guard but he decides to roll with it. She tells him to follow her around the corner to her house.
As soon as they get inside, she goes to "slip into something more comfortable". And then...it starts going down! She peels him out of his clothes and immediately begins enjoying every bit of him. This goes on for about three hours or so...(Feel free to doubt the length of time because we all know how dudes lie about their stamina...lol)...So after the 3 hours "or 3 minutes", he gets dressed and leaves.
They exchange a few texts and calls before and after the couple of other times that they have sex, so "David" is feeling pretty good about things when he shows up for another session. But this time "Sarah" has different plans...
"We need to talk about what's going on between us. I don't want you thinking that you can just come over here, hit it and leave"...
To make a long story short, "Sarah" becomes enraged when "David" tells her that this is all he has to offer because he already has someone at home. To which she responds, "What the f**k you mean you already got somebody at home? SMH...Did she honestly not see that one coming? ...She then proceeds to kick him out but tries to block him as he attempts to leave, saying "This isn't what I want." ...Say what??? But didn't she just say...oh never mind...
Anyway, at the end of the day, how a woman responds to a given situation within a relationship has very little to do with her age. It's based more on her temperament, how much or little she cares and how deeply she is wounded. Whether older or younger, this has been the majority of my experiences.
I could go give you a lot more examples on this subject but I don't want to bore you any longer. Besides, what do I know? I'm just average an Joe with a laptop and an opinion. And these are...
...JUST MY OBSERVATIONS
What I mean by that is it doesn't matter whether we're dealing with a younger woman or an older woman, we often have to go through a good deal of the same sh*t! Complaints about not communicating enough or not being affectionate enough? Check. Insecure and whiny? Check. Saying one thing but meaning another? Creating problems when there are none? Wanting and coercing their man to change? Check. Check. And check!
Now to be fair, I'm well aware that this doesn't apply to all women. But, in essence, that's exactly my point! Because age is a very minute factor when it comes to how a woman might respond in a given situation. There are many much more predominant factors that come into play. However, older women are quick to point to a younger woman's age as the main problem, notoriously making snide remarks about a guy who is seeing a substantially younger woman. My favorite line is "He can't handle a real woman. That's why he likes dealing with little girls." And yes, there are plenty of times when this statement holds truth. However, the reality is that just because she's younger it doesn't mean that she is immature or that she doesn't handle her business. Yes, the possibility is there because the older you get, the more wisdom and experience you gain. But, come on now, let's be honest: each and everyone one of us can name several! old fools. Am I lyin'??
A few days ago I had a short conversation with a friend about how some of my past experiences and hence, my opinions, might be a lot different if I were to base them off of the dealings of an older woman today. And I completely disagreed. I have had many relationships with women older and younger than me, and there is no big difference in regards to the way they act and act out when it comes to a relationship. Obviously, there are differences between each woman but that often has little or nothing at all to do with their age.
Case in point:
A friend of mine was recently involved in a situation that highlights exactly what I've been saying. As per my policy, the names have been changed to protect the innocent, as well as the guilty.
"David" was at a gas station pumping his gas and minding his own business when he noticed a woman that appeared to be checking him out. As he finished up and closed his tank, he looked up to find her staring at him and smiling. So of course, he goes over and introduces himself...
"From a distance, she looked like she was around my age. And her body was just ridiculous! As I got closer to her, I could tell she was a little older than me."
Come to find out she was about 47, which is about ten years older than "David". So after they exchange numbers, "David" casually inquires as to what "Sarah" was getting into for the day. She responds that she didn't have any plans, which leads him to say that maybe they should try and connect later on. But "Sarah" doesn't want later on...She wants RIGHT NOW. This catches him off-guard but he decides to roll with it. She tells him to follow her around the corner to her house.
As soon as they get inside, she goes to "slip into something more comfortable". And then...it starts going down! She peels him out of his clothes and immediately begins enjoying every bit of him. This goes on for about three hours or so...(Feel free to doubt the length of time because we all know how dudes lie about their stamina...lol)...So after the 3 hours "or 3 minutes", he gets dressed and leaves.
They exchange a few texts and calls before and after the couple of other times that they have sex, so "David" is feeling pretty good about things when he shows up for another session. But this time "Sarah" has different plans...
"We need to talk about what's going on between us. I don't want you thinking that you can just come over here, hit it and leave"...
To make a long story short, "Sarah" becomes enraged when "David" tells her that this is all he has to offer because he already has someone at home. To which she responds, "What the f**k you mean you already got somebody at home? SMH...Did she honestly not see that one coming? ...She then proceeds to kick him out but tries to block him as he attempts to leave, saying "This isn't what I want." ...Say what??? But didn't she just say...oh never mind...
Anyway, at the end of the day, how a woman responds to a given situation within a relationship has very little to do with her age. It's based more on her temperament, how much or little she cares and how deeply she is wounded. Whether older or younger, this has been the majority of my experiences.
I could go give you a lot more examples on this subject but I don't want to bore you any longer. Besides, what do I know? I'm just average an Joe with a laptop and an opinion. And these are...
...JUST MY OBSERVATIONS
Wow… I’m still shocked at the story. I do agree with you that age is only a number when it comes to relationships. The older you get the wiser you become but that is not the case for everyone. It just depends on the person. In your story the lady was 47 and did something that an 18 year old would do. She did not ask the man anything about himself or if he was in any type of relationship and when he tried to be a gentleman by making plans another time she took it upon herself to basically make a fool out of herself. Lets keep it real it all has to do with how smart you are and she wasn’t the brightest Crayon in the box, nor was David, he thought that since she was 47 and he hit it once that she would not flip out on him like a 20 year old hood-rat WRONG. I suggest he rent the movie “A Thin Line Between Love and Hate” because it sounds like this brother is going to have some issues on his hands in the near future. All in all, great blog!
ReplyDeleteActually he was expecting her to trip eventually...Just not so soon. He was expecting to get a good few weeks out of it. LOL!
DeleteHe might just end up getting more than that, but not in a good way lol!! Crazy has no age limit.
ReplyDeleteLol. The only thing she can do at the moment is blow his phone up. She doesn't know anything else about him.
DeleteAs my sis said, "Just call him hard and her easy". The way you start a relationship is the way it will end, and age had nothing to do with this one.
ReplyDeleteYep! I agree 1 hunnid par cent! Lol...
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